Changing the object is never a solution. Changing the attitude (cognition) is the solution.
- Make a list of things you feel attached to or things you feel greedy about. It might be a habit, perhaps a particular pleasure or object or person.
- Include anything or anyone on the list that makes you feel possessive, greedy or lustful.
- Then just sit and meditate with a deep and sacred feeling. Anything can become sacred when you are respectful and feeling connected to it.
- Bring in respect towards the object, or person.
With a lustful attitude, you will make even a person into an object because you try to possess the person. With an attitude of love and respect, you will make even an object into a living being! Lust will become love the moment you add sanctity and respect to it.
Promote each object or person, elevate them to the level of a being. Suddenly you will see that the lust has transformed into love. The passion has become compassion. Then every relationship is such an ecstasy, and you experience real love.
source: Living Enlightenment