1. HOW DO WE KNOW THERE ARE HOLES IN OUR WHOLE?
At any time even once if there is a situation or incident which is making us feel powerless, worried, angry, stressful, unhappy, sad, agitated, violent, guilty, vengeful, frustrated, overwhelmed, less than peaceful or blissful, then we can be sure there are incompletions or holes in our true self.
WHAT WE DON’T SEE IN THE MIRROR…IS…
The invisible hangovers [incompletions] crowding our inner space from every single incident that we encountered.
2. WHAT CAUSES HOLES IN OUR WHOLE?
The innerspace of a child is more of visualization than verbalization. But when a child goes through a conflicting incident [less than blissful, could be a reprimanding from an elder, a sibling rivalry, fear stroke, etc] for the first time and thereafter, the child handles such a situation with inadequate cognition. That is when the identities and thought patterns set in.
To handle this emergency situation, one picks up 3 identities:
Mamakara: The image about oneself
Ahankara: The image one projects to others & the world
Sva Anyakara: The image about others & the world
Anyakara: The image which one believes that others & world has about oneself
These identities become the repeating root thought patterns which attracts similar situations throughout one’s life. The inner space with the hangovers starts handing all incidents and people with a repeating pattern, even though the people, time & place are different.
By and by playing with identities of inadequate cognition and masks has become the accepted reality.
We need to integrate who we believe we are and who we project we are with who we truly are.