Some people asked me, ‘Can we have pets in the teamily?
The teamily we create, you can have pets, you can have pets. You can even have trees, hills; rivers are energetic enough, conscious enough, spirit enough to respond to you. So, a river or mountain or a pet or a tree can be added into your teamily. That’s the first question.
For the newcomers the word “teamily”. “Teamily” means: Family and Team together. Unfortunately, human-beings have lost connection even with themself. Forget about having connection with the family, even with themself they lost the connection. The strong, deep-rooted, grounded lifestyle is lost. Due to various reasons we became very unconscious. Now making us come back to consciousness and created, complete, centred, grounded with yourself and with your family and team together – “Teamily”. Means, “teamily” is the people with whom you share your life. People who share their life with you is “teamily”. Literally, people who are part of your living, your existence, only those people I call them as “teamily”. Pets your trees, rivers, mountains can be part of teamily.
I have some questions. I will try to answer. These are from Bela Patel, California.
She’s asking, ‘Is interaction with teamily members a must on a daily basis?’
See, sometimes you will have a friend with whom you have not spoken for ten years but that friendliness is there alive in you. So with teamily, whether you interact every day or you don’t interact, that is not a problem. But the experience of Advaitha should be alive, that’s all! That’s all. Nothing else. There is no such thing as just because you speak to somebody they are your teamily. I know many people; they live in the same house, they don’t talk to each other! No just because you live in the same place or you talk to them. There are some people, every day you talk to each other, but it is only fight….rat-a-tat-a-tat….gun! No! You talking to somebody every day, or not talking to somebody every day, all that does not count.
Please understand, Bela Patel I want you to know I am not a “good-relationship” teaching guru. No! Please understand, I am not teaching you to have a good, great relationships. No, hell with your relationship! Even if you have a best husband, best wife, you are just going to die leaving him. Neither he is going to come with you or you are going to go with him. No, no I am not the guy who is teaching how to have a great relationship, like how to win friends and influence people. No! Understand, the good relationship happens as a side-effect. But the context I am teaching to all of you is establishing yourself in the spiritual space of Advaitha.
When you feel oneness, because of the oneness, you will know whatever insecurity the other person is feeling, you will know whatever desire or greed the other person is feeling, you will know the other person’s space. Because of your knowledge, you will have love and compassion. Understand, anything becomes known to you, anything becomes part of your knowledge, you start loving it. Because you know the desire, greed, struggle, fear the other person is going through when you experience Advaithic space with them, because of that non-duality, you love them, you become compassionate towards them, the relationship may become better. But, my purpose is not making just your relationship better.
Understand, the utilities of Advaitha is not Advaitha. Siddhis of Advaitha is not siddhi of Advaitha. Siddhis of non-dual consciousness is not non-dual consciousness itself. So whether you talk to somebody every day, or not talk to somebody and all, all that does not matter. There are thousands of, I can say, lakhs of people who don’t get to talk to me. But they are so fulfilled just seeing me. I can see in the Facebook and the Twitter, the amount of messages pouring. The amount of messages pouring. I don’t know how many lakhs of people’s teamily I am. At least few thousands the first member of their teamily is me only! No wife, no husband, no son, no daughter; all of them are second, third only. For so many people. It’s not that all of them talk to me every day. They may get to talk to me even maybe once a year. Some people, not even that! Thanks to Facebook and Twitter giving people the experience that they are at least able to convey whatever they want to convey and they can be sure it has reached me, that experience. Please understand, there are some people, all the names in their teamily is only Nithyananda Swamiji, Nithyananda Swamiji, Nithyananda Swamiji, Nithyananda Swamiji, that’s all!
So please understand, there is no need that you need to be talking to your teamily or not talking to your teamily. It is the space you carry, hold about them. Sometimes you may be talking lovingly, sometimes you may not be talking, sometimes you may just avoid, sometimes you may fire. Whatever it is, the space you carry about them, that is all matters and that only makes you powerful and you as a strength to your teamily. “Teamily” means, the way you carry them in you. Outside you may be loving, flowing, but inside if you are having deep incompletion and anger about them……no! So, I tell you, it has nothing to do with action; it is all about some decision you have about people.
I can see in my life, with so many Swamis, whenever they are not efficient it is not that they are inefficient; they are arrogant. They have a abusive nature inside. Means inside their space, they have a deep anger and arrogance towards life and Sangha. So please understand, it is when your decisions change about life and every one, only then the teamily gets formed. It is the change of your decision, not your action.
Second question: ‘At minimum, how frequently we should be seeing them?’
This question, I think, I have already answered, Bela Patel.
The third question: ‘What should I do or not do? For example, if it is my friend, father, how can I be good friend, father, daughter?’
Again Bela Patel, this whole, all these questions I have already answered in one answer. It is the space you carry. See when you are alone inside your bedroom, if you remember them, how you feel about them inside you, that decides whether they are your teamily or not. You are all alone; you just suddenly get to remember the person; how you feel inside you about that person, it is all that matters whether somebody is your teamily or not.
And the fourth question: ‘I have listed people of my family. However, they are not connected with Sangha, Nithyananda Sangha. Do they need to be or is it better to select the Nithyananda Sangha people, so later on, if Swamiji wants to interview them, there is no conflict?’
Please understand, do not ever imagine that if you select people of the Sangha you will not be having conflict. Conflict is present based on your experience of Advaitha. You can be in the space of Advaitha with anybody. So, you do not need to choose members of the Sangha. You should choose the people with whom you are living, your day-to-day life is happening. All of them should be your teamily and you should be strong enough, powerful enough to teach them the science of Completion. And don’t worry that they are not part of the Nithyananda Sangha. The moment you teach them about Completion and they start understanding, they belong to Nithyananda Sangha. They may not accept Nithyananda, but they have to accept Nithyananda! Please understand, they may not accept Nithyananda, but they have to accept Nithyananda! Means, they may not accept the form of Nithyananda, but they have to accept the substance of Nithyananda. So when somebody understands Completion and wants to complete, they already, they are part of Nithyananda Sangha! Don’t worry about it.
So first thing you need to do, you have to choose your teamily who are every day working with you, with whom you share your life, with whom you share your house, you share your bed, you share your food, you share your work, you share your office, you share all the moments of your life whether good or bad. So, they don’t need to mandatorily belong to the Nithyananda Sangha.
First thing, what is Nithyananda Sangha? Let me define it:
Whoever accepts this science of living enlightenment and radiates it in their life and enriches people with this great dhamma, they are all, I call them only as Nithyananda Sangha. So, I don’t call somebody as Nithyananda Sangha just because they wear my rudraksha mala or the bracelet. There are many people, only when they come to see me, or come to Kalpataru, they wear that mala! It is just make-up, ashram-going make-up, office-going make-up! When they go to office how they wear a tie, like that, when they go to ashram or temple they wear rudraksha mala! No! Understand, your teamily should be the people with whom you are sharing your food, job. In your office, whether somebody is working above you or below you, if they are working with you, they should be your teamily. With whom you share your life, food, house, office, bed, these people should be your teamily. So, you become sincere enough to imbibe this Science of Completion and start sharing it with your teamily. And when you share, when they start understanding the Science of Completion and start learning, living, I tell you, naturally they become part of the Nithyananda Sangha, that’s all. So you don’t need to worry that somebody who doesn’t belong to Sangha, you are keeping them as a teamily member. You should only give priority to with whom you live.
Next question: ‘If they want me not to go to Nithyananda Sangha, am I obliged to do that?’
No! You are not obliged to do that! Ramakrishna says very clearly! Ramakrishna is one of the greatest masters. He says very clearly, ‘For enlightenment, for spirituality, you can give up anything! No Karma comes to you!’ He says, ‘You can give up any relationship, anybody, anything. Personality like Ramakrishna who always stood in the space of truth, he himself declares very clearly, ‘For Guru, for spirituality, for enlightenment, anything can be given. Anything can be given up. But don’t give up Guru for anything!’ So, you don’t need to – you don’t, actually you need to bring Completion to them; you will not get into their incompletion.
And the next question from Bela Patel: ‘If they want me to start attending their religious gatherings, do I do that?’
You should be powerful enough to teach them and tell them what is exactly right and what exactly makes somebody realize their highest possibility; that’s all. So, you don’t need to bend at all for anybody. Creating Advaithic space does not mean you becoming powerless.
Understand, today I wanted all of you to continue to do your Completions. Yesterday all of you would have written, penned down all the incompletions; you would have started. I am 100% sure you will not complete in one day, Completion with your whole teamily. So all you guys start doing it sincerely.
And, today, I wanted all of you to continue to do the Completion. Continue with your Completion with your teamily. And, whoever has added me as part of their teamily, you can just keep my photograph and complete with it. And, I 100% guarantee, you will be completed. I am always in the space of Completion, don’t worry! Because I am always in the space of Completion! You sit and complete. You have my photograph as part of your teamily for your Completion process; you will be complete!
You also need to understand, it is not difficult, but you have to DO it! Just by thinking about it and not doing it is not going to help. Many people have an unconscious pattern: ‘Oh, I know this. I will practice it directly. Why should I go through all this process?’ No! Then you are in a delusion. If you know it, then why you are not able to practice all this while? Because, the knowledge has not penetrated every corner of your being! So, understand, this process will make the knowledge to be assimilated every part of your being, knowledge to be digested as an experience into every part of your being.
So, I wanted today also every one of you will continue with the process of Completion.
Let me describe the process of Completion:
Sit with your teamily members with the decision to bring Completion.
Second, don’t confront them. Tell them very clearly what all the incompletions you are feeling and how you started building this pattern from your young age. The other person is not at all responsible for your incompletion. It is the patterns you built is responsible. Understand you always carry a mould. Anybody comes in your life, you just take them and slap them on that mould and you tell them, ‘See my mould is all incompleted because of you!’ The incompletion is not from, because of the person, because of the mould you carry, because of the pattern you are carrying. So let the other person know the patterns which you developed from the young age which is responsible for your incompletions. This discussion, this Completion should go on incident by incident with the other person, step by step, till both of you are completely complete.
Understand, Master is the eternal space of Completion. That is why he completes you in every incompletion. L Whether you have incompletion with your mother or father or friend, the presence of the Master, the space of the Master completes you. But with ordinary persons your incompletions create more incompletions with them. So please understand, now decide to be a space of Completion. Now decide to be a space of Completion.
Today, continue to have Completion with your teamily. Sit with the teamily and in the night again sit with yourself. This next one month, literally the space of Advaitha happen in every one of you.
I can say that, from this Guru Poornima till Navaratri, we will have it as “Advaitha Rithu” – the “Season of Advaitha”. And now itself let me prepare all of you and do all this process so from Guru Poornima and Navaratri, that two-three months, you are all established in the space of Advaitha, we are all established in the space of Advaitha. From the Guru Poornima, the space of Advaitha should start and by Navaratri, the shakthi of Advaitha should start expressing in you.
Start the Completion! Start the Completion! Start the Completion! Listening about it – great! Thinking about it – great! But DOING it is greatest!
Listening about it is great. Listening about Completion is great. Thinking about Completion is greater. DOING Completion is the greatest!
Please understand. Move to the space of DOING the Completion.