Tag / Ahankara

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The law of Cosmos and the natural law of Existence – Dharma is not comparison based philosophy of communism, socialism, capitalism or corporatism. But it is Responsibilism.

The idea of duty is different for different people, different countries, different cultures, and different religions. Hence the term ‘duty’ is impossible to clearly define. We have always been trained by society to consider certain acts as duty; some as good and others as bad. Duty and responsibility are totally different.
For example, it is our duty to help elderly people, to follow principles of truth, non-violence, non-stealing and such tenets. We are brought up with these concepts of morality, but have we experienced the beauty of implementing them?

When you actually take responsibility, Indra enters your hand; it becomes vajrāyudha. Yama enters your lungs; it means ‘not-stopping’. Lakṣhmi enters your heart; it means ‘continuously sharing’.

Then there are certain principles that get handed down depending on the religion we follow. For example, a starving person who finds a piece of meat has no problem eating it if he is a non-vegetarian. On the other hand, a vegetarian would feel it is his duty not to touch meat even if it means losing his life. These are all socially defined duties. Never judge the customs of other people by your standards. There is no common standard for the Universe. Continue reading →

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Your own suppressed part, which is yet to be realized, goes and sits in the other’s heart. When you fulfill the expectation of others, only then you realize that it is your own expectations that are fulfilled

In these verses, Kṛṣṇa beautifully explains what walking the talk means through His own example. He says there is nothing in the three worlds the nether world, earth or heaven, for Him to achieve. There is no duty that binds Him. Even though He has nothing to gain, lose or even to do, He is constantly engaged in action and enriching the three worlds. Why?

After Enlightenment, I came from the Himalayas to be amidst the people to enrich them with Enlightenment. I could have just stayed there happily and blissfully. But I have come here because of my responsibility to guide people with the right path of living Enlightenment.

Because people look up to Him as God, they would obviously follow the path He sets. People’s anyakāra, the expectation that world has from Kṛṣṇa is that He is God, He is Bhagavān. They would simply follow what He does. He is now responsible to fulfill even others’ image about Him for leading them on the correct path. That is Bhagavān Kṛṣṇa’s authenticity and responsibility! Continue reading →

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What is it that is not allowing you to see that you are already unclutched, already complete and bubbling with life ?

Just understand this one simple truth. In order for an animal to breathe, it does not need ego, it does not need an identity or any character. But as a human being, you are afraid that if you drop your identity you will not be able to use your body. You fear that something bad will happen to it.

You are afraid that if you drop your identity, your body will not function smoothly. You have an idea about yourself as ‘I am somebody’s father, I am somebody’s brother, I am somebody’s son.’ This idea that you have, this identity that you carry, this ego that you carry, is not necessary for the smooth functioning of your body and mind. Of course it is very difficult to believe this.

Do you need to think about breathing, making your heart beat, digesting food, or eliminating wastes from your body?

No!

This very fact should help you to realize that your ego is not needed for you to survive. There is something beyond the ego that is keeping you alive and functioning. If your existence depended on your ego what a catastrophe that would be! We would not be able to manage it! We are so much more than our ego, but that too is hard to believe. Continue reading →

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Life becomes materialistic when you expand your ahamkara and it becomes moralistic when you work on your mamakara. Unclutch from both and realize you are beyond both.

This is an incident from the days right after my enlightenment when I was in Tamil Nadu in South India.

One evening, I was sitting in a very relaxed mood in a forest. My eyes were open, but I was not seeing anything, as there was no information going inside and getting processed. There was a huge snake lying about three feet in front of me. Because the eyes were not processing any information, there was no fear inside. I was sitting and the snake was also so relaxed and comfortable.

Then slowly, my mind came down to the normal plane and I had a thought, ‘Oh, there is a snake.’ Then the next thought came, ‘I should move away.’ The moment the thought ‘snake’ came in my inner space, I saw very clearly that the snake also felt disturbed that there was a man in its presence.

Until I felt ‘There is a snake,’ the snake never felt that I am a man. Until I felt the fear, the snake never felt threatened by me. Neither did I have fear nor did the snake have fear. But the moment I had fear, the snake also got fear. It was not that the physical distance between us reduced. Just the thought ‘snake’ came in me and I was clearly able to feel there was a disturbance, a restlessness, in the snake’s inner space. The moment I had the thought ‘I should move’, the moment I had the fear, immediately the snake also felt the same insecurity, the same threat. Immediately, the snake started moving, even before I started moving.

When your ego becomes strong, your ability to connect with Nature is disturbed. Continue reading →

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Happily lived ever after !

Newly married you just jump on each other thinking that the other person is going to fulfill you, complete you…..“happily lived ever after”….. Maybe you can use that statement on your tomb: “Happily lived ever after”! See, “happily lived ever after” appearing as a scrolling, and then the couple holding hands together and walking, this eternal scene is almost international! All Hollywood, Kollywood, Bollywood, Sandalwood, whatever “wood” it may be, this scene is the eternal scene, this is the end scene: “happily lived ever after”!

That is one of the biggest hopes human-beings think, that the other person will complete you, the other person will fulfill you. You jump on each other. The next scene should be you sitting on the Corporation garbage dumping yard! If I am asked to make a movie, the next scene will be that, that vast Corporation garbage dumping yard, Chennai, Bangalore, Corporation garbage dumping yard; in that a few pigs fighting with each other! And, then, realizing that neither they are fulfilling each other, nor the garbage is giving them what they want!

Understand, I am not against marriage.

I am against loaded marriage – marriage loaded with false expectations, marriage loaded with false expectations, some false promises; the man trying to take away all the power of the woman without taking the responsibility of completing her, and the woman trying to control the man without taking the responsibility of completing him.

Actually, before the marriage, you both have to sit and do the Anyakaara Parishodhana; Means, what you think about you, how you project you to others, how you perceive the other person, and how you perceive the world. This Ahankaara (outer image), Mamakaara (inner image), Anyakaara (other’s image about you), Swa-Anyakaara (your image about life and others), these four you both should sit together and analyze. This is the first thing which needs to be done before any marriage, before any relationship.

Before even making a friend, if you sit and analyze it, you will have an amazing friend, you will have a best friend! In our Sangha also I have seen, I have seen some of the best friends, they understood all these four. Both of them have understood all these four. Only then they became best friends. In your life, with whomever you shared these four, means, Inner Image, Outer Image, Others’ Image, and Life Image, and they shared their Inner Image, Outer Image, Life Image and Others’ Image, you became best buddies. If you are husband and wife, you became best husband and wife. If you are friends, you became best friends. If you are brother and sister, you became best brother and sister. The best happened between you guys when you shared what is your Inner Image now, Outer Image, Others’ Image, and Life Image, and what you want to become, both your existing image and authentic image, you became best support for each other.