Category: eN-Relationship
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Why do people break up, don’t live happily ?
Mohandas Pai: Swamiji, why is there conflict in families between 2 people. Between spouses, why do people break up, don’t live happily, how to handle conflict and what causes this conflict? Swamiji: Basically, you keep somebody as part of your cognition, but you are not ready to take the responsibility for how they expect you. See…
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How do we overcome this need for power within our souls, within our body, within our lives?
Mohandas Pai: Swamiji, you know all of us want power in our lives, we want control, we want wealth, we want people to listen to us and this need for power in all human beings, is the root cause of much conflict, because this power is exhilarating, how do we overcome this need for power…
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Happily lived ever after !
Newly married you just jump on each other thinking that the other person is going to fulfill you, complete you…..“happily lived ever after”….. Maybe you can use that statement on your tomb: “Happily lived ever after”! See, “happily lived ever after” appearing as a scrolling, and then the couple holding hands together and walking, this…
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Completion is not…
Completion is not apologizing. Completion is not complaining. Completion is not begging. Completion is not becoming weak. Completion is not tolerating atrocities others do. Completion is not putting up with all stupidity of others. Completion is not putting up with others’ powerlessness. Completion is not letting others do whatever the want. Completion is not being…
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“Loneliness” and “Aloneness”
Just now I used both words in the same meaning. But in order to define both words deeply, in Sanskrit we have a word – “Kaivalya”; means, “aloneness”. “Loneliness” is, you want to have somebody to escape from you and your incompletions; that is “loneliness”. Even if you have the other person or not, you…
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“Trust” vs “False Hopes”
Understand, again, “Trust” is from the powerful space with the clarity of what you are. Only with the clarity of what you are, “Trust” happens. “False Hopes” is you not trying to understand what you are, you not trying to understand what the other person is, is “False Hopes”. Understand, when you understand who you…
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People ask me to define “trying to improve others” vs “accepting the others as they are”.
Please understand, both are wrong! Trying to improve the other, means, constant resistance. Accepting the others as they are, means, non-caring laziness. Both are wrong! Be very clear, the other person is not one! Look into that person. All the Completion space that person carries, accept it as it is. Imbibe, imbibe so much that…
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People ask, ‘Commitment vs Responsibility in a relationship, Swamiji, please define?’
Please understand, if you constantly think from incompletion, powerlessness, and can constantly be thinking what all can go wrong, and trying to control only that, stop only that “what all can go wrong”, that is “Commitment”. “Responsibility” means, thinking from the powerful space “what all can go right”, and making that happen, working for that.…
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People ask me many times, ‘Swamiji, define Love vs Lust vs Passion.’
When you give the same space you wanted to the other person from the understanding of Oneness, when your beings experience the same reality, it is “Love”.When your bodies try to experience the same reality by exchange of muscle-memory and the physical touch, it is “Lust”. When your minds try to exchange the bio-memories and experience…
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What is the best way to teach children about healthy relationships?
The best way is, educate them with the simple ideas how the friendliness strengthens them again and again. Do not add your selfishness into their being. Do not add your self-centred incompletions into their thinking part. Teach them to be powerful and complete. Teach them the joy of Completion. Teach them to relate from the…
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‘How to use love and the relationship as a gateway to enlightenment and higher consciousness?
This is very important! Please listen! Understand, you are nothing but a bunch of your patterns, past experiences. Same way, the other person also is nothing but a bunch of patterns, past experiences, mainly incompletions. Remember, whatever leads you to incompletion will be leading the other person also into incompletion. Remember, never to retain the…
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