Both ideas are wrong. Just because they died in the sleep you should not attribute the word peacefully. And just because their outside showing the pain symptoms , you cannot say they are not peaceful inside. So, peaceful and they are not peaceful is simply dependent on the patterns and incompletions. If you complete all the incompletions your death will be so peaceful, because all the patterns will become irrelevant to your life, irrelevant at that time. The incompletions cannot bind you anymore. So you will have a peaceful, complete peaceful death. Whether you will have a peaceful death or not depends on you have a peaceful life or not. If you can just sit with yourself whenever you want & you are in the space of completion, perpetual completion, you will die only in that space. If you can fall asleep when you want, if you can wake up when you want, you can sit with yourself when you want without electronic gadgets, you will die peacefully.
This is very important! Please listen! Understand, you are nothing but a bunch of your patterns, past experiences. Same way, the other person also is nothing but a bunch of patterns, past experiences, mainly incompletions. Remember, whatever leads you to incompletion will be leading the other person also into incompletion. Remember, never to retain the other person in your life through incompletions. No! Trying to have the other person in your life through incompletions is psychological slavery. Most of the time, because you are dependent on the other person, you make the other person dependent on you subtly. When you understand you don’t want to be bound by somebody, you don’t want to be controlled, you don’t want to be under slavery, you don’t want the relationship with incompletions, when you understand that, having the clarity that the other person also does not want to be bound by incompletions, powerlessness, or slavery, giving the same space you want to have to the other person is what I call “Oneness”.
Giving the space you want to have to the other person also is “Oneness”! Giving the space you want to have to the other person also is “Oneness”, understand?
Love and relationship is the greatest way your own unknown part of you can be known to you by being mirrored by the other person.
I tell you, “beloved” is a person who awakens your own unknown parts of you to you. Even you will suddenly be shocked that you can fall in love so much, you can love so much!
“Beloved” is a person who awakens that deep friendliness dimension of you which was unknown to you.
“Lover” is a person who awakens that extreme friendliness and joy which was inside you, but unknown to you.
“Teacher” is a person who awakens the knowledge component of you which was inside you, but unknown to you.
“Beloved” is a person who awakens the love component of you, friendliness component of you which was inside you, but unknown to you. Your beloved, the other person, the “other” in the relationship, is a mirror of unknown components of you. When both of you mirror each others’ unknown components and start exploring, supporting each other to complete each other, this is the best path for enlightenment! That is the best path for enlightenment! I want to tell you, no one can be achieving enlightenment alone. No one can achieve enlightenment in loneliness. Even if he does not have relationship with a man or woman, he will be having relationship with a river, or a hill, or a tree, to achieve the Complete Completion and Enlightenment.
Relationship can be beautifully used as a Gateway to Enlightenment and higher consciousness when you decide not to put the other person in the space you don’t want to be put. If you don’t want incompletions, don’t give incompletions to the other person. If you don’t want slavery, don’t give slavery to the other person. The space you wanted, give the same space to the other person; you will see, both of you reach enlightenment!
When you handle with incompletions how the Completion can be done, Completion can be easy. See, when you sit for completing with your incompletions, understand the futility of the incompletions; means, they do not have any value, utility value in your life; they are not going to give you intelligence, they are not going to give you inspiration, they are not going to give you excitement, they are not going to add joy to your life. Other than being cancerous and self-destructive, the incompletions have no utility value in your life. I can say, in a way, they are futile. Remember that and go back to the same incompletion patterns you started creating in your life from the young age; that frightened child who is living inside you, adamant child is living inside you.
You will never do anything, but you think you are qualified for everything! You will never take responsibility, but you think you can boss around everyone. I tell you, this mental setup puts you in Indraloka where constant insecurity. You may think, ‘Wow! Indraloka is great! I can drink Somarasa, see the dance of Rambha, Menaka, Urvashi, Tilottama, go around and smell the flowers of Parijata, rest under the Kalpavruksha, drink the milk of Kamadhenu…’ No! You need to know, Heaven is constantly under threat! So, when you build arrogance and show powerfulness outside, but inside you are powerless, because comparison itself is a attitude born out of powerlessness. Inside you are deeply powerless, outside you constantly show you are powerful. Literally, you will be like Indra! Indra’s space is the most cursed space. Indra’s space is like a sugar-coated, bitter pill! Outside constantly he has to show with all the rathna, kireeda simhasana, gaana, gandharva, natya, chitra vidyadhara, but inside he will carry so much of powerlessness! That is why constantly Heaven is shaken. I tell you, if you are caught in the pattern of comparing yourself with the people whom you think are lower than you, you will develop so much of arrogance, pride, inauthenticity; you will never take the responsibility; you will never live the life of enriching yourself and others; but you will go on using all your energy to question, ‘Why he is not authentic? Why he is not dedicated? Why he is like this? Why he is like this?’
I tell you, allowing the Master to enrich you is the best way of enriching yourself.
If you don’t enrich yourself, no one can save you. If you enrich yourself, whatever you touch will be successful.
Arrogance is the most powerful, cunning method which shows all the inauthenticity, irresponsibility you have on others. And you go on comparing yourself with others, abusing others. In this way, you abuse yourself and destroy yourself! Unless you get out of it, only when you enrich yourself with responsibility, you can become authentic again. I tell you, when you carry this pride and arrogance, comparing yourself with others whom you think are lower than you, your health will collapse. Be aware! Only when you collapse, fall down, you will start looking into what is the real mistake, ‘Where did I go wrong?’ But now, I am telling you, this is the warning from the Guru! Wake up! Don’t allow this pattern to settle in you. Complete with it. Your immature arrogance, before it destroys your health irreparably, wake up! I tell you, the second pattern is more worse than the first pattern, because in the first pattern you will have only psychological damages which is easily repairable. This arrogance, pride pattern damages your body, your body structure, your inner organs. Not only that, you will have so much of hatred for yourself. You will not even feel like repairing yourself; you will just only want to give up on you, because in arrogance you will always feel you are doing too much.
I am giving you the post-mortem report of arrogance. I have almost one million post-mortem reports of different patterns, because I went through all of that before getting enlightened. Before getting enlightened you need to go through all types of patterns and get the post-mortem reports. Only then you can become Paramahamsa. Because you need this knowledge to help your disciples. Only then you are certified as Paramahamsa. So, Mahavatar Baba saw all the millions of post-mortem reports I had of different mental patterns, and only then he blessed me, “Paramahamsa”. Understand, I am giving you the post-mortem report of this arrogance pattern. It will give you the idea you are doing too much, but outcome will be nothing. Nothing will be the outcome.
In real powerfulness, you will do so much, but you will never feel you are doing so much. I tell you honestly, with all my Integrity and Authenticity I tell you, I feel my whole day is so free, I can do more and more and more. I really feel I am not doing anything. Every night when I sit to fall into Samadhi, I feel, ‘What is this? I have not done anything today!’