How do all of us find peace and happiness in our lives?

Mohandas Pai – Swamiji, thank you so much for talking to me. Is very fascinating to be here. 
Swamiji – Thank you for being here.

Mohandas Pai – It’s very fascinating to be here, to see so many people who have come to meet you and talk to you. I want to start off this dialogue by asking you a very simple question – how do all of us find peace and happiness in our lives? What is the magic that we need to do, to be happy and to be peaceful within?

Swamiji Happiness is actually a alchemy process in us, independent of any external happening. We are trying constantly, to achieve happiness in the wrong direction, thinking that only certain permutation, combinations of the external happening can cause happiness in us. It is like a completely misunderstanding the chemistry. If A + B is going to be C, and we go on try to add C + D and reach the A, it is never going to happen. Same way, the alchemy of the happiness, has to be understood as a independent process than the external happenings and permutation, combinations of the external happiness. This itself solves almost 80% of the problem. Then, building happiness is a separate profession we need to do; like making business.

Mohandas Pai Oh…

Swamiji It is unfortunate, we believe just by making business or building our career or building a relationship, happiness is achieved. NO.!  It’s a separate alchemy process. Of course, thousands of times simpler than building a career and profession. It may be simple, but it is separate process. We need to look in, to the basic understandings which makes that spiritual alchemy process of happiness happen in us. May be looking into that and following that science, happiness can be developed. And developing happiness can be the first fundamental foundational requirement, even to develop our business and career and all the other things; because if we develop happiness, peace will be side-effect. Peace itself is not main effect. Peace will be side effect. That will equip us, to handle all the things we need to do, to build our career, profession, relationship and all that.

Without building the happiness inside, if we directly start building external things –

1st – Tremendous stress.

2ndEven after achieving the goal, we suddenly feel whatever we lost in the path is too much, to reach this result. So that leads to frustration. I call it – Depression of Success.

Mohandas Pai – Oh…

Swamiji – Successful, but whatever we gave up, looks too much of…too much we gave up, to achieve this. After achieving that only we understand, “I think this may not be that worthy”. So building happiness is an independent science, alchemy, which every individual need to do, before even beginning the life. If we missed, at least now.

Why should one cause other’s reality?

Causing others’ reality is the highest frequency of Existence. Santana Hindu Dharma is rooted in the principle of causing others’ realities from the context of Advaita. All the auspicious, best things in the Cosmos are meant for causing the Reality of all the beings that exist in it. All of nature exists to nurture all beings. All the forces of the Cosmos operate in great harmony to keep the flow of Existence exactly as required for all beings to exist and prosper. Causing others’ reality is what raises a human being from the human frequency to divine frequency, it is the way Sadashiva expresses through a seeker.

Any decision, any action, any blessing given to cause another’s reality reveals the highest Reality of the causer to Himself.  Authentic, sincere decision to cause others’ reality, to be a catalyst for others’ reality, brings a certain grace in you, the groundedness in you, stability in you.

All the best gifts of Sadashiva, the grace of Sadashiva, the powers of Sadashiva, are showered on people to cause the highest reality for others. Sadashiva is the most compassionate being. He goes on showering His powers on His disciples when they decide to raise themselves and join His mission of blessing and healing the Cosmos. Causing others’ reality is not a service or a social virtue as perceived by people a lot of times.

Causing is a power, it is a gift.  It is the way Sadashiva, the unmanifest energy, reveals Himself to the manifest World. 

When Sadashiva blesses someone with extraordinary powers,  He blesses them with manifesting Himself.  He also gives the receiver immense intelligence on how to use the powers to enrich people and cause their realities.  All spiritual powers are given to people only to bless and heal the world.

courtesy: Manifesting Shaktis

Why should I work with inauthentic people?

Many times people ask me, ‘Why should we work with these people?  They are not integrated, they are not authentic. They are liars, cheats.’

I tell them, ‘Come on, if you are not able to handle their failures, you will not be able to handle your failures.  Because you are not able to handle your failures, you are not able to handle their failures.’

Giving up on people will make you give up on you, which is worse than suicide. Giving up on yourself is spiritual suicide.  Understand, giving up on others and giving up on yourself is spiritual suicide.  Giving up on others is social suicide.  Giving up on yourself is a spiritual suicide and if you give up on others, I guarantee, you will give up on you.  I don’t want to even reduce the spirit by saying “social suicide”.  No,   giving up on others is also spiritual suicide because, if one happens, the other will happen.  Giving up on yourself, if it is done, giving up on others also will happen.   

Constantly perform responsible intense action with no clinging to the reward of performance.

IA Participant: Dear Swamiji, in Bhagavadgita chapter 5 verse 11 and Chapter 5 verse 12, the sacred secret is – ‘Constantly perform responsible intense action with no clinging to the reward of performance.’ My question is – I typically prioritise my business tasks by revenue; the higher the revenue, the higher the priority of the task. Is this verse 11 and 12 of chapter 5 applicable in the planning, execution, or both phases. Please clarify. Thank you, Swamiji.

Swamiji: Please understand, you doing the business tasks by the revenue, higher the revenue, higher the priority is perfect. Nothing wrong. But when you start calculating your whole life just based on the money or the revenue, that is where something is seriously wrong. At some points you may have to perform many actions which does not bring direct revenue but which brings fulfillment. For example, all the actions in your relationship, family; you may have to get a toy and give it to your child, you may have to give a smile to your spouse, you may have to give a hug to your friend,  don’t lose those dimensions.

Unfortunately if you put everything in the revenue sheet; toy is not a revenue, it is only an expense, a smile is not going to give you revenue, those things only I am saying, even when you need to do something which is related to your relationship which does not bring revenue, be responsible for it, be total in it. Otherwise you performing your actions, based on higher the revenue, higher the priority of task, perfect. Forget about you, even I perform like that only. That is the way life happens. That is the way life is. But you will see in me the same totality, and intensity when I perform all the actions which are not related to revenue, which are related to seva / service. When I conduct a medical camp or when I conduct some satsang or the mass programs, annadhan or any other social activities, social service activities which are no way related to revenue, you will see the same intensity in me. The prioritization may happen based on the revenue but the smile cannot happen based on the revenue.

See, after prioritizing when you start working, then forget about everything. It should be a complete total being.  You prioritizing, see.. if you are not prioritizing based on revenue you can be a complete fool. I have seen.. I have seen penny wise pound foolish fellows. They will save few pennies and lose not just pounds, millions of pounds.

In planning, do prioritize based on the revenue but when you execute forget about the revenue. Be total. Complete. Even planning as per revenue has to be done responsibly, intensely. When you execute perform intensely without bothering about the reward. See.. when I plan, I plan this, this, this, this, this. When I execute even if the reward does not come, I don’t bother. I go ahead, execute. Do it. Over.

In planning, do responsibly. In execution do responsibly without clinging to the reward of performance.

When you are in incompletion, in all places you will experience only fear and lust.
If you are in a state of completion, you experience humor.
If you are in a state of incompletion, you will feel that the whole world is laughing at you.
If you are in a state of completion, even if the whole world is laughing at you, you will also laugh at yourself.

You only have to discover whether life has a purpose or not. The philosophies based on advaita which are based on poornatva teach you that life has a purpose. The philosophies based on shunyataa teach you that life has no purpose. Both are truth. Buddha and Adi Shankara both are Truths. Mahavir and Madhva both are Truths.

Sometimes, people come to me with big problems, if I tell them to try completion, they feel that by giving such a simple solution, I am offending them. Most time in our life all complicated problems are based on simple incompletions. When you complete with one incompletion, all the problems related to that incompletion disappear.

Decide that everyday just 1 hour you will be in the state of completion.

I request all people to do nirahara samyama. When without eating you take only liquids, you will find that in you can get established back in the state of completion. When you are happy or sad, in those moments you are vulnerable; whatever work you do in those moments is very important. In that time, you should read spiritual books, not put food inside you. When the unconscious state presents before you the questions of life, in that time you are vulnerable to being programmed.

Presented bare, truth hurts

A lady came to me complaining that she is hurt by even small criticisms coming from others. She said she was very sensitive. I asked her to stop using that word. I said, ‘You are not sensitive. A really sensitive person will be porous; she will allow the words to pass through her. Only arrogant people get hurt. If you are hurt, please understand that you are arrogant. You are strong like a stone, which is why words come and hit you.’ A sensitive person would have allowed the words pass through her; she will never suffer. Even if someone is deliberately rude, a sensitive person understands where such a person is coming from and is not defensive. Suffering is always from arrogance, never from sensitivity. A person who is sensitive will never suffer. A sensitive person will suffer on account of another person in distress, not for oneself. You suffer from words when you stop them, when you resist them, when you create your own meaning out of them. When we do not create our own meanings out of words, we do not suffer. We play with words. We always choose nice words to support our ego. We do not say, ‘I am hurt because I am arrogant.’ We always use polished words such as, ‘I am hurt because I am sensitive.’ Please don’t cheat yourself with words. Let your words be unfiltered by your ego.

Let me tell you a small story:

Once, a contractor wanted to donate a sports car to an official. The official refused, saying, “I am an honest person and I cannot think of accepting this gift.” The contractor asked him, “In that case how would it be if I sell you this car for Rs 10?’ The official replied immediately, ‘In that case, I will have two cars!’

When an untruth is wrapped in gift packing, you forget you have a problem. You accept it without a murmur. However, when truth is presented bare, you do protest. Presented bare, truth hurts; ego cannot tolerate truth easily. We are so concerned about politically and socially correct statements, it seems no longer acceptable for anyone to speak the truth. But it seems to be perfectly acceptable to lie in a politically correct manner.

Ramakrishna says beautifully, ‘Let your words and mind be straightened.’ Whatever is, let it be offered straight without filtering.

Learn to accept truth bare. At least you will know you have a problem that you can solve.

Doing for having & Doing for being

We all function around these three axes: doing, having and being. Doing for having, without enjoying being, is the sole cause of all misery. Doing never catches up with having. Every time we work hard and fulfill one desire, there are more desires to make us run. Never think “Let me work now, I can enjoy later”. Don’t think you can come back later and enjoy! I tell you, it will never happen. Every tomorrow comes in the form of today. Doing should lead to being every moment, only then you are on the right track. 

Don’t postpone living. Celebrate! Enjoy life – it is now or never. We all run throughout our lives thinking that we can enjoy later., but we land up finally running into the graveyard. When you get onto the running track, you lose your real capacity to enjoy. You forget how to enjoy. 

Sacred secrets on Birth

This video presents the Akashic readings on Birth delivered through Paramahamsa Nithyananda from Cosmic Archives.

What is sex ?

The most talked about, thought about and written about subject is sex. The most misunderstood, misinterpreted and confusing subject is also sex! We either try to avoid the subject, or we try to indulge in it. Sex is deeply buried in our unconscious minds. Right from the start, we rarely find someone who can enlighten us on the subject of sex. Sex, more than any other subject, needs to be illumined with the light of consciousness. 

Sex is a tremendous creative energy. It is a meditative energy. The whole world has arisen out of sex energy. 

Our ancient enlightened masters, the rishis, have given us great clarity on this subject. Do you know that Vatsyayana, the man who wrote the Kama Sutra, the book on the science of sex – was a sannyasi ? He was celibate.  In fact, he delivered the Kama sutra to his own mother.

Vatsayana was questioned once, “What authority do you have to speak on this subject?”. A natural question! I think many of you might be silently putting this question to me also! Have you ever watched two people playing a game of chess? When you simply watch the game, very often, the right move will suggest itself to you – but somehow it never occurs to the two players! What do think could be the reason? Because we are not involved in the game. So, only the man who has come out of the game, who is a mere watcher, can give you the right idea about it. A master is the one who knows the Whole. That is why he becomes the authority on any subject. 

Tantra deals beautifully with the whole concept of sex. In the scriptures, Lord Shiva speaks to Devi Parvati on this subject. Those insights recorded several thousands of years ago are found to be relevant in biology today. Biology has proved that no man is 100% man, and no woman is 100% woman. A man is 51% man and 49% woman. Likewise a woman is 51% woman, and 49% man; just a difference of 1%. This is the basis behind the symbolic representation of Lord Shiva as Ardhanareeshwara, the figure that is half male and half female. Whether we accept it or not, we are an embodiment of both male and female energies. We are whole, not divided. In order to be complete, to be whole, it is essential that we are able to accept and express both the masculine and feminine aspects of our nature. 

But does it really happen? Are we allowed to express both aspects?

Right from the moment of birth, society labels you as either male or female. And it expects you to start behaving accordingly. Society does not allow boys to express their feminine side, nor girls to express their masculine side. Right from a very young age, one half of our is suppressed. A male child is not encourage to play with dolls and kitchen sets. A female child is not encouraged to play with race cars and rockets. Even when it comes to colors of their clothes and other belongings, there is discrimination. You choose blue for boys and pink for girls, it is not?. Until the age of 7, the child is not conscious of being male or female. That is why a very young child has a sense of completeness. He is centered and secure. He is so beautiful and joyful to look at! 

Man’s inherent nature is fulfillment. He came from fulfillment and looks to attain as well. So as a child, he begins to search for the lost half, the suppressed half, unconsciously. He starts looking at the outside world for a substitute for his own lost half. The male child starts searching for a female presence and the female child for a male presence. 

This is where the whole idea of sex starts. This is how the idea of sex takes root. 

Socrates was killed by being forced to drink the juice of the poisonous herb called hemlock. 

Just before he drank the poison, one of his disciples asked him, “Master, are you not afraid of dying? You appear to be so calm”.

Socrates replied, “Why should I be ? I know that only two things can happen after death. Either I will continue to exist, in some other form or name, or I will cease to exist after death. In the first case, there is nothing to worry about. In the second case, who will remain to worry? So either way, there is nothing to fear!”. 

Morality makes you totally dull and dead!

Morality always instills fear. In our lives, morality is nothing but a poor substitute for intelligence. When you act out of your own intelligence, you can be confident of yourself. But when you act out of rules and regulations, you can never be sure of yourself, because you are not yourself to start with! You are not centered in yourself; you are centered on the rules. People who preach morality are so deeply in fear. That is why they preach about it. They are afraid either because they are unsure of themselves or because they know to be moral only with fear. Moralists can become neurotic with their concept of morality and discipline. 

Once there was a moralist who normally walked on the streets with carefully measured steps. 

One day it suddenly began raining very heavily. 

The moralist just followed the crowd and ran along. 

After running for a while, he realized that he was careless about his manner. He said to himself, “What am I doing! Running is undignified. A gentleman must correct his mistakes regretfully if he has made any”. 

So he returned in the rain to the place where he had begun running, and walked again, with measured steps. 

When I tell you this, I am not telling you that this is a free world and you can do anything you like. I am telling you that you have to develop your own intelligence and live so that rules will only be a confirmation of what you already know and feel. This is real intelligence. Any proper rule will only be a confirmation of what the rightly flowered intelligence feels. So drop your fears and try to find your inner intelligence, your inner master.