Tag: Fear

Intelligence is the ability to respond to a situation or challenge

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We think we are very intelligent and so we try to mould our children to become intelligent like us. When we start this process, we first teach the child the logic of running in life driven by either fear or greed. Either he has to do something to achieve more, or he has to do something to prevent what he doesn’t want to happen. When you want something to happen, it is greed. When you are afraid that something will happen, it is fear. Either he has to study so he can get better grades and win admission in a good college, this is being driven by greed. Or he has to study so he is not left behind in his future professional life, this is being driven by fear. The motivation for the child is greed or fear, never inner fulfillment. Naturally, the child gets into the rat race and just keeps running, with no time to even look whether he is running for what he really wants. He does not even know that he can enjoy the run! He has been taught that with any other diversion, precious time will be wasted in reaching the goal.

But how many people have felt fulfilled after reaching the ‘goal’?

When you reach the goal you have set, you realize the goalpost is no longer there. It has moved further, and you want something else now! Just look in. See if you are really bringing up your children or just teaching them to be driven by greed and fear. Take a deep look at yourself and see if simply running the rat race gives the feeling of real fulfillment deep within you. Are you doing what you are doing because that is what you really want to do? Or are you doing it because that is what is expected of you by your family, friends and society? Understand, if you are living your life based on just seeing what others are doing, you are just wasting your precious life. This is what they call ‘herd mentality’ – joining the rat race because everybody else is a part of it. You may even win the rat race, but you are still a rat! Read More

A simple thought to have a cup of coffee can remove the so-called powerful death fear!

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A person once came and asked me, ‘I am haunted by the fear of death. I have so much fear about losing my wealth, and about my death. Give me some solution. Please remove my fear.’

I told him, ‘Please have a cup of coffee.’ He said, ‘What do you mean?’ I said, ‘Just think of having a cup of coffee, then have a cup of coffee.’ He was not able to believe me and asked, ‘How can that help me?’

I asked him, ‘The moment you are able to think of having a cup of coffee and decide to have a cup of coffee, the death fear that is haunting your inner space has left your inner space. Am I right? Even if it is only for a split second, the fact that the thought about coffee has entered your system means that the death fear has been pushed aside!’

Unless the death fear leaves his inner space, he cannot think of having a cup of coffee, right?

We have already seen that only one thought can exist in your inner space at a time. If the older thought comes back, it means that you have consciously brought it back, like bringing back a trashed email to your inbox. So naturally, a simple thought to have a cup of coffee can remove the so-called powerful death fear.

The man said, ‘No, it looks too simple! The death fear definitely comes back, what should I do?’ If it comes back, have one more cup of coffee, that’s all! Read More

Will we contract another person’s karma when they give advice, or touch them? How vulnerable are we to other people’s karma?

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Understand, you cannot get karma from somebody else. You have enough of your own! So do not bother about catching karma from another person.

Either by touching or by giving advice or by close physical contact or physical proximity, karma can never be passed on. You may acquire the mental setup of that person in close proximity, if you are continuously around him, but never his or her karma. Of course, you have to be mentally strong so that you don’t get his or her mental setup! But if you are solid within yourself through the clicks that have happened in you, even this won’t affect you in any way.

Understand one more thing, I do not interfere with your karma. Like how when the sun rises the darkness disappears on its own, in the same way in the presence of the master the karma gets burnt.

Karma, like darkness, has got only negative existence. It does not have a positive existence.

What I mean is that you cannot take it and throw it out like how you can take say a microphone and throw it out. Just like how lightlessness is only called darkness, karma is just lack of inner light in us. It is just ignorance. It is energylessness. Read More

Why do we compare ourselves with others? Because we forgot that all of the confidence, intelligence, and vibrant energy that we need already exists inside us!

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Emotions of fear, desire and guilt are subjective emotions. What I mean by this is that you do not need another person or even an object to create these emotions. Imagine that you are in a sound-proofed room with your eyes closed and with nothing to touch, taste or smell. You can still feel the emotions of fear or desire. But to compare yourself with another person and to feel jealous of him, you need the presence of another person.

Jealousy is therefore an objective emotion.

It needs an object to be activated. Jealousy starts from comparison. We always compare ourselves with others in various fields like looks, wealth, knowledge, name and fame and friends to name a few. When we compare ourselves with others we feel that somebody else has something more than what we have and we get caught in jealousy.

Comparison is the seed and jealousy is the fruit! Read More

if you take full responsibility of deciding whether it is right or wrong, you can avoid all guilt feelings!

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Many times you justify your guilt by labeling it as responsibility. No! How does one differentiate between guilt and responsibility? If you get into a low feeling when you think about it, it is guilt. If you feel intensity and integrity, it is responsibility. This is the clear scale. If you are pulled to low energy at the thought of what you did, then it is guilt. But if you feel good about it, then it is responsibility. Falling into guilt is a clear way of escaping responsibility. Once a man came to me complaining, ‘I am suffering. I have fourteen children.’ I asked him why he chose to have so many children. He replied, ‘Why? God gave me!’ The problem is, we do all that we want to do without taking responsibility for it. After doing it, we feel god made us do it! If we take up responsibility for every action, we will never land up in guilt or trouble.

All guilt related to extramarital affairs comes under this category of sheer lack of responsibility in behavior. Be very clear that extramarital affairs clearly show disrespect to another being, your spouse. You have no right to disrespect another being.

What is the meaning of the relationship of marriage?

Let me explain. Man as such is centered on muladhara chakra or the lust energy center in the body, and woman is centered on the swadhishthana chakra or the fear energy center in the body. That is why man gives in to lust easily and woman gives in to fear easily.

If you see during the traditional vedic marriage ceremony, in front of the sacred fire considered to be a representation of god, the man promises to the woman, ‘I shall give you security and release you from insecurity (fear).’ The woman promises to the man, ‘I shall give you love and free you from lust.’ Both of them decide to liberate the other from their weaknesses. Read More

It is Integrity to your desire which allows the proper conversion of the desire to knowledge and action!

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Fear and desire are the fundamental energies that drive our lives. We act either out of a desire to achieve something or reach somewhere, or out of a fear of not wanting to experience something. Attraction and repulsion are not merely forces of molecules, but also essential to human behavior.

One of the major driving forces in human life is desire. If you look into your life, you can see most of the time we are driven by either desire or fear.

We have so many desires and often we feel we don’t have energy to fulfill them. According to the Jain tradition, the Divine sends us with enough energy and capacity to fulfill all our desires. But most of us don’t feel this way. Why? Read More

Whenever you have physical pain, whenever you have mental suffering, try this technique to be healed that very moment!

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Look into the blue sky beyond the clouds. Normally, we only look into the clouds and pass judgment on them as ‘beautiful clouds’, ‘dark clouds’ and what not. Now, do not get caught in clouds. Clouds are like thoughts, like dreams. Look beyond the clouds into the blue sky, the vast emptiness.

If you look at the clouds, your mind will start thinking something. If you look at the sky beyond the clouds, your mind will stop working! If you start looking at the stars, again you will start thinking. Seeing the clouds means getting stuck with your thoughts. Seeing the stars means getting stuck with spiritual visions and experiences. Don’t do either.

Just look into the empty, vast and open blue sky. Just lie down. Do not support your head with a pillow. Otherwise you will fall asleep. Just lie down and stare at the sky, the vast empty space.

Just gaze at the sky. You may experience fear. If you just gaze without looking at the clouds or counting the stars you will experience fear because the idea of your boundary is getting lost. Don’t bother about the fear.

If you are doing it properly you will have fear. If you are gazing and managing to think, you will not experience the fear because you are still caught in the boundary of the body. It is like back-seat driving. You are gazing and your mind is thinking.

Just gaze, do not think. After some time, suddenly you will realize you have forgotten your body for a few minutes. The link, the shaft of thoughts that you normally create has suddenly disappeared. This can’t happen if you are expecting it to happen.

Don’t expect, ‘When will I lose my thoughts? When will I lose the shaft?’ Just gaze without bothering about anything.

When you see that in the last few seconds there were no thoughts, just close your eyes and bring the whole outer space into the inner space. Visualize the same thing inside you. Suddenly you will see you are having the same thing inside. There are no thoughts, no stars. There is just vast space.

If you are having knee pain, try this technique. Just gaze at the sky. Suddenly when you remember that for the last few seconds you did not have thoughts, take that whole space inside your knee where you have pain. The pain will simply disappear in a few seconds.

Whenever you have physical pain, whenever you have mental suffering, try this technique. That very moment you will be healed. That very moment you will simply see the inner healing happening inside you.

Apart from the healing, if you are a seeker looking for spiritual growth, it will also bring you tremendous energy and quantum experiences. You will have a quantum jump in your growth.

source: Living Enlightenment

Pain is always born from resistance to the present moment!

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Often, Fear manifests itself as pain. The most frightening thing in the world is pain.

All living beings are afraid of one thing, and that is pain. If you look deeply, you will find that people don’t fear even death as much as they fear the pain and agony they will undergo at the time of death! Many are afraid of poverty, many of relationships, and many others fear disease.

The root cause of all these fears is the pain that happens while going through these things. All these fears are because of the fear of pain.

Pain can be physical, mental or emotional.

Physical pain is a basic necessity for the body. Just imagine, if we could feel no pain in our body we might accidentally hurt ourselves or start styling our faces, hands, and legs the way we style our hair today! Actually, pain is a letter of request, written by the body to the mind, saying, ‘Please pay attention to me!’ because attention is energy. When attention is given to a particular area, that attention becomes energy for that area. When the body communicates pain, it is actually asking for attention or energy, which will help it heal.

Mental or emotional pain is the psychological feeling that arises when you are faced with something you don’t like. Research shows that emotional pain can deeply disturb the physical body. For example, the psychological feelings that arise with sexual repression can result in lower back disorders, or the pain of shouldering too much responsibility can cause pain in the shoulders. Read More

Swadhishtana Chakra Meditation to liberate yourself from fear!

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Step 1.

  • Remember the swadhishtana.
  • Be aware intensely of the being center, two inches below the navel.
  • Intensely chant the “hoo” kara by producing the sound hooooo, through the mouth as you exhale as loudly and as long as possible.
  • This will create a vibration effect around your mouth.
  • Allow any fear that comes up to come up.
  • If you are trembling or shaking or feeling disturbed, it is ok.
  • Intensely chant the hoo kara mantra.

Step 2:

  • Relax in the being center.

Pure greed is intense bliss or excitement. Pure fear is intense peace.

Through bliss, you can achieve. Through peace also, you can achieve. Relax into the peace, and you will see that you are completely alive!

source: Living Enlightenment

If you can face your fears, you see they have no depth!

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The biggest fear human beings have is the fear of losing their identity. Even the fear of losing one’s life is not as great as the fear of losing the identity. The fear of losing your identity is much worse than the fear of death.

All our fears, be it fear of losing physical health, mental stability, wealth, name and fame, or loved ones, are actually fear of death under various disguises.

The social fear or fear of being rejected by society makes us do things to please society, even when it is not good for us. In this process, many times, we sacrifice what our being really wants to do. That fear of not being accepted by society is just another form of the fear of death. It is the death of the ego.

Every act of ours is unconsciously related to death and the fear of dying. Understanding death can change your entire perception of life. It can simply transform the way you handle all your fears. Fear is what leads to anger. Fear is the passive form of the energy while anger is the active expression.
When you are angry, just look into the anger. At the root of it, you will find a deep fear.

Try this for yourself:

if you are feeling fear, express anger at that time. Throw your hands, stamp your feet and express the energy. You will see that the fear disappears. You will see for yourself how fear can simply transform to anger. Similarly, fear can also transform to hate. You just need to be aware of yourself and witness how the emotions subtly change from one form to another. When you understand this play, you can easily get out of the game. Read More

Fear is a powerful energy which gives a deep relaxation, a deep centeredness when you don’t fight with it!

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You cannot conquer fear. Fearlessness means intelligence to live the intense fear without directing it towards any object. When there is no object to be afraid of, the intense fear will give such an intense relaxation and peace.

Fear is a powerful energy which gives a deep relaxation, a deep centeredness. The fear center is the rejuvenation center.

Fearlessness is not suppressing fear.

For example, when you are afraid to cross a dark area in the night, you start thinking of and repeating god’s name. Because of fear, god’s name will be topmost in your mind! You feel that you don’t have fear because your inner chatter is engaged in something else! When you engage your inner chatter in something else, you feel that you are out of fear. But you have only diverted your attention, you haven’t solved the problem completely.

There is a saying, ‘When a cat drinks milk, it will close its eyes tight and think that the whole world has become dark, and therefore, nobody can see it!’ Understand, you also do the same thing when you don’t pay attention to the fear, and then believe that the fear has disappeared.

Fearlessness does not mean non-existence of fear. It means the fear is there, but you have tremendous energy or courage to live with it and face it. Fearlessness means having the energy or the courage to live even with the maximum fear. It is going beyond that fear and being neither attached to nor detached from the fear.

One more important thing you should know is fear is part of the nature of life.

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If you have too many fears, the possibility for enlightenment is more. So many doors are available to you!

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Fear is a deeper dimension of worry. Worry can cause ulcers. Fear on the other hand can even destroy life. However, unlike worry without which life is possible, fear seems woven into our lives. It is possible to face fear without fear. A person who we call courageous is not one without fear, but one who has learnt to face fear without fear.

Fear is a form of energy inside us. That is why it cannot be destroyed. Energy can neither be created nor destroyed. It can only be changed from one form to another. Understand, your fear is directly connected to your life energy. Whenever you are facing a survival threat, you will see your fear rising and the adrenalin release happening in your body. That adrenalin release gives you so much energy that you can almost fly. We call it the fight or flight response – either you face the fear and fight, or you run away. There will be so much energy in your body the moment you face a survival threat. Whenever that threat is real, the swadhishthana chakra, the seat of life, gets completely shaken!

When there is pure desire or pure greed in you without any object in particular, it becomes the overflowing energy of creation, expansion, or Big Bang! For no reason, you simply explode with energy. In the same way, when there is pure fear in you without any object in particular, it becomes contraction, black hole. Fear is your nature, but don’t direct it towards any object. Having fear is natural. But connecting the fear to an object is societal. Pure fear helps in survival and it is spontaneous. Read More