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Sannyas is what softens you into real love, love towards not just one person but towards the whole of Existence. 

Sri

Sannyas is about seeing the wonderful co-existence of everything in Existence. Sannyas is existing in relationships like a water drop on the lotus leaf. If you see the lotus leaf, the water droplet will be on the leaf but will be untouched by it. Sannyas is living in relationships while being untouched by them. A common misconception is that sannyas is renouncing relationships. No. Sannyas enriches relationships.

Awareness is bringing your consciousness to your mind and watching non-judgmentally

So many of my disciples who have embraced the path of sannyas come and tell me, ‘Swamiji, after initiation, the husband-wife understanding has flowered so beautifully. Now we are really living in tune with each other and with everything around us.’ 

With sannyas, you start watching everything. You become a witness. Because of this witnessing, a gap is created between you and the other person. That gap is misunderstood as ‘renunciation’. If you notice, the gap was not there earlier. Each one was suffocating the other. Now the gap is there. The gap is not a gap of distance but a gap of awareness. Continue reading “Sannyas is what softens you into real love, love towards not just one person but towards the whole of Existence. “

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Whenever you see the quality which is becoming so useful to you, you just fall in love with it!

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I will continue on the Ishavasya Upanishad sixth verse.

यस्तु सर्वाणि भूतान्यात्मन्यॆवानुपश्यति ।
सर्वभूतॆषु चात्मानं ततॊ न विजुगुप्सतॆ ॥
Yasthu Sarvaani Bhoothaani Aathmanyeva Anupashyathi |
Sarva Bhootheshu Cha Aathmaanam Thatho Na Vijugupsathe ||

Listen!

“One who, indeed, lives by seeing as it is the whole Existence, all un-manifest and manifest beings, existing in the Consciousness itself, and the Consciousness existing in the whole Existence, thus, does not feel violated, or hates anything existing, by virtue of not seeing oneself as separate from the Consciousness.”

Listen! Today, I am taking completely a different route for you to experience this truth. If you think this stone is too big, based on this stone you will compare everything else. ‘Oh, that stone is smaller than this. That stone is equivalent to this. This stone is a little bigger than this.’ So, based on the stone which attracted your attention due to its qualities, based on that you will compare all other stones, everything around it, and try to grasp, understand. That is what exactly you are doing in your life. You try to gauge, study, cognize, understand everything, based on the idea “I”, “Aham”. The “I” is the most heaviest thing which you perceive in your life. You are literally in love with it! Understand? The “I”, which you perceive, the “I” which you experience the moment you wake up, till the moment you fall into deep sleep, even after that in the dreams, sometimes even in the deep sleep, the “I” which you are perceiving, experiencing, you feel it is so HEAVY, so IMPORTANT, so GLORIOUS! Because, only with that, the support of that, and its existence, you are able to perceive and enjoy, have all the moments, and able to relate with Existence. Continue reading “Whenever you see the quality which is becoming so useful to you, you just fall in love with it!”

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Technique to flower in your relationships

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Now I wanted to give you the meditation process to experientially flower in true love, in relationships. The first step: Look in and pen down – • What you feel about you when you are with that person with whom you are in love, • What you feel about you when you are not with that person with whom you are in relationship, and • How you show you to that person. Pen down all these. • How that person perceives you, and • How you perceive that person. Pen down all these five points independently. And look in, what … Continue reading Technique to flower in your relationships

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“Loneliness” and “Aloneness”

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Just now I used both words in the same meaning. But in order to define both words deeply, in Sanskrit we have a word – “Kaivalya”; means, “aloneness”. “Loneliness” is, you want to have somebody to escape from you and your incompletions; that is “loneliness”. Even if you have the other person or not, you will be lonely. “Aloneness” is, you are so complete, so fulfilled, so powerful, you don’t need anybody to complete you, make you powerful, that is “aloneness”, whether you have the other person or not. Whether you have the other person or not, if you are … Continue reading “Loneliness” and “Aloneness”

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People ask me to define “trying to improve others” vs “accepting the others as they are”.

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Please understand, both are wrong! Trying to improve the other, means, constant resistance. Accepting the others as they are, means, non-caring laziness. Both are wrong! Be very clear, the other person is not one! Look into that person. All the Completion space that person carries, accept it as it is. Imbibe, imbibe so much that you feel one with it. All the powerlessness, even if it helps you to keep the other person under your control, don’t keep that alive; it is not good for you for a long term. Help that person to complete with that. Even if you … Continue reading People ask me to define “trying to improve others” vs “accepting the others as they are”.

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People ask, ‘Commitment vs Responsibility in a relationship, Swamiji, please define?’

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Please understand, if you constantly think from incompletion, powerlessness, and can constantly be thinking what all can go wrong, and trying to control only that, stop only that “what all can go wrong”, that is “Commitment”. “Responsibility” means, thinking from the powerful space “what all can go right”, and making that happen, working for that. “Responsibility” is working for what all can go right. “Commitment” is stopping, working to stop what all can go wrong. Commitment is “crisis management mood”, Responsibility is “creation mood”. In a relationship, “Responsibility” means, constantly raising it to the next, next, next levels of Completion; … Continue reading People ask, ‘Commitment vs Responsibility in a relationship, Swamiji, please define?’

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What is the difference between “devotion” and “attachment”?

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Ask me this question, because I am seeing tons and tons “devoted”, and thousands and thousands “attached”! In “devotion”, you try to experience my space of Completion. In “attachment”, you try your best to pull me down to your level of incompletion. If you expect me to act in the same pattern you wanted, it is “attachment”. If you evolve in the space I am living and radiating, it is “devotion”. That is all! Very simple definition! Continue reading What is the difference between “devotion” and “attachment”?

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People ask me many times, ‘Swamiji, define Love vs Lust vs Passion.’

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When you give the same space you wanted to the other person from the understanding of Oneness, when your beings experience the same reality, it is “Love”.When your bodies try to experience the same reality by exchange of muscle-memory and the physical touch, it is “Lust”. When your minds try to exchange the bio-memories and experience Oneness, it is “Passion”. Please understand, when your beings try to experience Oneness, it is “Love”. When your emotions, interests, try to experience Oneness, that is “Passion”. When your bodies try to experience Oneness, it is “Lust”. All the three is nothing but trying to … Continue reading People ask me many times, ‘Swamiji, define Love vs Lust vs Passion.’

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What is the best way to teach children about healthy relationships?

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The best way is, educate them with the simple ideas how the friendliness strengthens them again and again. Do not add your selfishness into their being. Do not add your self-centred incompletions into their thinking part. Teach them to be powerful and complete. Teach them the joy of Completion. Teach them to relate from the space of powerfulness. Bring them to the eN-Genius program. We will teach them. We will give them the experience of powerfulness, relating from the space of Completion, and healthy relationships. Continue reading What is the best way to teach children about healthy relationships?

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‘How to use love and the relationship as a gateway to enlightenment and higher consciousness?

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This is very important! Please listen! Understand, you are nothing but a bunch of your patterns, past experiences. Same way, the other person also is nothing but a bunch of patterns, past experiences, mainly incompletions. Remember, whatever leads you to incompletion will be leading the other person also into incompletion. Remember, never to retain the other person in your life through incompletions. No! Trying to have the other person in your life through incompletions is psychological slavery. Most of the time, because you are dependent on the other person, you make the other person dependent on you subtly. When you … Continue reading ‘How to use love and the relationship as a gateway to enlightenment and higher consciousness?

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People also ask me about the concept of “soul mates”: ‘Do they exist?’ ‘What does it mean practically?’

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I want to tell you, “soul mates” exist only after you discover your soul, not before that! Unless you discover your soul, soul mates don’t exist. Unless you experience Completion, soul mates don’t exist for you. If you experience Completion, you will attract the right person to whom you will cause Completion, who will cause more and more Completion in you, you both will cause each others’ reality. When I use the word “Causing Oneness to each other”, means, causing each others’ reality, you don’t feel your reality is separate from that person, that person’s reality is separate from you. … Continue reading People also ask me about the concept of “soul mates”: ‘Do they exist?’ ‘What does it mean practically?’

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How can I bring true love into a relationship to make it extraordinary?

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The one and only way: Bring the experience of Oneness and Completion in both of you. Welcome to the Inner Awakening to experience the real true Completion, Oneness with the other person, where you complete the other person and the other person completes you, and the true love is experienced, where the true love is awakened. Understand, if you bring Completion to each other, the true love is awakened and the relationship becomes extraordinary, leads itself to the experience of Oneness. Continue reading How can I bring true love into a relationship to make it extraordinary?