Whether the idea of pleasure is inserted into you, by the solid experience of pleasure or because you spontaneously lied or planned lies you created, for some reason that it is pleasure ? Find out by acid washing it with Integrity!

Listen. The other day I was explaining various levels of Integrity.

Integrity to your thought current.

There is a next level. Integrity to your lifestyle, the lifestyle you have chosen. About that, we will see later. The initial, the fundamental principle of Integrity – integrity to the thought current you cherish and you share. About that I will explain.

See, incompletions with the thought current you cherish and share, leads to tremendous confusion about your existence. Understand. The whole problem is the pattern of lying and spontaneous lying, more than others are cheated, you yourself cheat you and you do not really know what you want. I have seen, people don’t know what they want. They actually know what they want, they don’t know what they want. They actually know what they want, they don’t know what they want.

They know they want Sadāshiva and Kailasa, because 4-5 times they spoke about the cars, they think they may want cars. They know what they want, they don’t know what they want. Understand. I am repeating – ‘they know what they want, they don’t know what they want.’

The words continuously uttered, convinces you more than convincing others. That is the biggest danger. When you utter a lie, whether a planned lie or a spontaneous lie again and again, after a few times more than others, you are cheated. What will you do with the stupid cars, vacation homes? After few days, it will be bored because without looking into the reality….you see, past few times when you went to vacation, did you really enjoy something which you visualized, when you planned for a vacation? You plan for a vacation, hoping certain experience you go for it and you know what happens and you come back. Even though you have not experienced what you planned, you go on try to lie, “What a vacation!” Put it in the Facebook……. Read More

The obstacles you will face in seeking

Let us enter into today’s Satsang. I will continue to expand on 9th verse of the Isavasya Upanishad. Please recite along with Me:

andhaṁ tamaḥ praviśanti ye’avidyām upāsate |

tato bhūya iva te tamo yau vidyāyāṁ ratāḥ || 9 ||

Those who worship avidyā, ignorance that veils the true knowledge of Truth, Consciousness, enter into blinding darkness characterized by the absence of perception; but into greater darkness of ignorance than that, enter they who, considering themselves as scholarly and learned, are engaged in vidyā, the incomplete knowledge acquired for vested interests, characterized by the impure perception of Truth and Consciousness.

See, this verse talks about two types of people—one, who worship ignorance, second, who worship half-truth. Knowledge for the sake of vested interest, not for the sake of knowledge itself. Understand, knowledge for the sake of vested interest, not for the knowledge itself.

When you start worshipping the knowledge for the sake of knowledge, you become embodiment of vidyā, knowledge. Read More

One of the important qualities to say “YES” to life is Tremendous Patience! “Yes”. “Yes”. “Yes”. Every time “Yes”. After every time, “YES”!

असुर्या नाम ते लोका अन्धेन तमसाऽऽवृताः । ताँस्ते प्रेत्याभिगच्छन्ति ये के चात्महनो जनाः ॥

Asurya naama they lokaa andhena thamasaavruthaah | Thaamsthey prethyabhigachchanthi ye ke chaathmahano janaah ||

The translation: ‘The various abodes of the Asuras, the lower level existence, are in the form of inferior or lower grade worlds, which are like hells coerced by darkness, representing all the negative qualities, collectively called “thamas”. Those who literally kill the Athma become ghosts who inhabit such horrible abodes, and, this, they continue to do repeatedly.’

Listen! People who say “YES” to life, what will happen to them was described in the last verses. Now, people who say “NO” to life, what will happen to them is getting described.

Listen! Whenever you entertain “NO” to life, first, always, “NO” is entertained as frustration. Then it evolves as anger, violence, self-doubt, self-hatred, self-denial; all this is various expressions. But, it starts as frustration. So, I tell you, one of the important qualities to say “YES” to life is tremendous patience. Listen! Tremendous patience! YES! YES! YES! Every time YES! After every time, YES!

Listen! Every time, when, what you want does not happen, don’t say “NO”; end in “YES”. I am not saying accept. No!

I will give you an example: Read More

Whatever you hold with fear of losing it, precisely that will be taken away from you!

Please understand, the perception evolving, evolution of the perception is a gift happening to you, which is just happening from Perception to Fact, Fact to Truth, Truth to Reality. And anybody who stops the evolution of perception commits spiritual suicide, “Atma Hathya”, understand? “Atma Hathya”, that is the word I will use. Killing the soul, the possibility! Killing the soul and possibility! I am telling you, not to frighten you, not to correct you, not to control you, not even I am interested in guiding you. And I know nobody listens to me! After talking twelve-thousand hours last fifteen years, I am very clear on my conclusion that nobody listens to me! I am talking for me to listen to me, understand? With this clarity I am declaring this truth. Upanishads just declare their own strength by their own statements. They don’t need any author to authenticate them. Same way, whatever I am talking, the dharma, the truth, I am revealing it for myself! The listener’s listening does not need to authenticate what is being uttered. With this clarity I am uttering these words:

Listen!

WHATEVER YOU HOLD WITH FEAR OF LOSING IT, EXACTLY THAT WILL ONLY BE TAKEN AWAY FROM YOU!

I am telling you…..

People ask me, ‘What is this, Swamiji! I am such a good person. I never cheated anybody. But my wealth is taken away. But these guys who cheat everyone, their wealth and all is not taken away. They are all living wealthily.’ Read More

I celebrate you being here !

Understand, when I found Advaitha, when Advaitha clicked with me….. Let me be very honest, it is Arunagiri Yogishwara who taught Advaitha to me personally!

I tell you, the first thing I experienced, I found solution, I do not have any more anxiety, fear, cause for fear! I do not have anything which can make me powerless or frighten me. That Completion, like a bomb exploding in me! I fell in love with Advaitha! I fell in love with the person who introduced that Advaitha to me! Understand, I fell in love with Advaitha, and I fell in love with the person who introduced Advaitha to me and who was the embodiment of Advaitha for me.

I tell you, that Completion, and I know for sure, anything in life, I know this dhamma, dharma, the Advaitha is there. I can never fall into powerlessness, and I am always powerful, and the powerlessness has lost meaning. Even Fear cannot frighten me, Death cannot kill me! The whole thing, the powerlessness, fear, anxiety, lost meaning in my life. The Completion with Dhamma, the Completion with Advaitha, when that clicked into me, I know I have experienced the space of falling in love with…..I can say, “rising in love” with dhamma, and rising in love with the Master who gives that dhamma, who is the embodiment of that Advaitha. Because I experienced this with Arunagiri Yogishwara, I can understand you guys, what you guys actually experienced with me. And, I want to tell you, with all my being, I sincerely reciprocate that with you guys, reciprocate that to you guys. I know what you are going through! You don’t have to think, ‘Oh, whether he understands or not what I am feeling for him?’ Don’t worry, I understand! HAHAHAHAHA! I understand more than you understand, because I have been through this with Arunagiri Yogishwara….I have been through this with Arunagiri Yogishwara.

And, I still remember…. It may look too mystical, but I am not talking to…..I am very clear, I am talking to my disciples, my devotees. I am not talking to anybody else. When I was seeing Arunagiri Yogishwara every day and listening from him, learning from him, experiencing from him, every night I have to leave the temple to come to the house. I will leave around eleven o’clock, because by twelve they will lock the doors, all the watchmen. I think, in those days, the temple used to be very free. The watchman will…. just if I say, ‘I will sit here some more time’, they will say, ‘Yes, yes’ and allow me; they will not have any problem. And, by night eleven I will come back to the house, and early morning four o’clock I will run back to the temple. But those four hours used to look too much! I used to feel it is like ten days, those four hours. And, I constantly used to be watching the clock, ‘Why this clock is not moving? This stupid clock, why the time is not happening?’ And I used to suspect whether the clock has stopped. I sometimes used to run and see the next room clock to see whether that clock is also showing the same time, or whether my clock has stopped running! I used to have this cranky thing. I just want to run back to be with him, with Arunagiri Yogishwara. It used to be so strong, may be, after ten-fifteen days I told him directly, ‘I feel that every night the time is too long.’ I am trying to get the exact words, Tamil words, and tell you. The conversation I was having with him, I am trying to translate exactly that. I told him that, ‘Every night it is too much!’ I will repeat in Tamil. I will say in Tamil; then I will translate. I don’t want to miss that original statement as it happened.

I was sitting with him holding his knee, the right knee. Whenever I sat with him, I will always hold his hand or his leg or some part of his body. I used to feel some energy is coming from him. HAHAHAHAHAHA! I was putting both my hands on his knee and I was saying,

‘Saami, Saami, dhinam raathiri indha watchu nagaravey maateyngudhu! Indha time-piece (alarm-clock) nagaravey maateyngudhu! Raathiri pogavey maateyngudhu! Naalu mani neram, naalu naal maadhiri irukudhu! Indha time-piece ah naanum nagathi nagathi paakiren, timeay nagara maateyngudhu! Time-piece ah nagathina, time nagara maateyngudhu! Enna pannaradhu Saami?’

Please understand, I was telling him that ‘Even if I move this time piece, the time is not moving. So I don’t know what to do! The time looks huge….too much! These four hours look like four days! I don’t know what to do!’ I remember exactly what he said:

‘Unakku mattum allada! Enakkum appadi thaanda irukku! Adhunaala thaaneyda kaalatthaye surukkidaren unakkaaga!’

He told me, ‘Not only for you, even for me it is like that only! So, that is why I am reducing the whole Time for you to be with me!’ He said these very words! He said…then he expanded:

‘Nee vandhu enna paaka, Sooryan, Chandran, ellaatheyum naan maatha veyndi irukke!’

Means, he said, ‘For you to come quickly and sit with me, I have to move the Sun, Moon, everybody, and change the whole Time, and quicken the process of time movement!’ Then I know, it is not that only the disciple feels, the Master also feels!

If you guys are moving only small things to be here, I am moving bigger things for me to be here with you guys! Understand, if you guys are moving only small things, whatever needed, to be here with me, I am moving bigger things for you guys for you to be with me! I am trying to move only the stupid time-piece, alarm-clock, to be with Arunagiri Yogishwara; he is moving the Sun and the Moon for me to be with him! Understand, what we move is toy; what he moves is Cosmos! You move your toys to be with me; I move the Cosmos for you to be with me! I moved my toy alarm-piece to be with him; he moved the Sun and the Moon for me to be with him! Understand, he also celebrates….I understood. I wanted to tell you guys, I also celebrate you being here….you being here!

What to say? The essence: See you guys all in Cambodia to celebrate! And, I tell you guys, you move yourself just to fill the Intention Form; I move the whole Cosmos to make it into reality! HAHAHAHAHAHA! I only moved the time-piece, alarm-clock; he moved the Sun and the Moon! I tell you, you just move to fill the Intention Form, I will move the Cosmos to make it into reality! See you guys in Cambodia! That is all! I bless you all!

Technique to flower in your relationships

Now I wanted to give you the meditation process to experientially flower in true love, in relationships.

The first step: Look in and pen down –

• What you feel about you when you are with that person with whom you are in love,

• What you feel about you when you are not with that person with whom you are in relationship, and

• How you show you to that person. Pen down all these.

• How that person perceives you, and

• How you perceive that person.

Pen down all these five points independently. And look in, what are the conflicts and incompletions between these five answers. Look in, when you started developing those incompletions in you.

I will repeat the instruction.

• What you feel about you when you are with that person? – First question.

• What do you feel about you when you are away from that person? – Second question.

• How you show you to that person? – Third question.

• How that person perceives you? – Fourth question. 

• How you perceive that person? – Fifth question.

See all these five questions are answered authentically, and sit and see in these five answers wherever the conflicts, contradictions, incompletions are there, pen them down, and look back how you developed those incompletions, and re-live those incompletions within you. Re-live again and again, and relieve.

Let me elaborate instructions on incompletion. When I say “incompletion”, the conflicts, contradictions you have, contradictions, conflicts, how you feel about you, but how you project you to that person. You don’t need to project you to that person in the same way you feel about you, because what you feel about you itself is not completely true. So, I am not asking you to just project you to that person as you feel about you. No! I am saying, first of all, complete even the way you feel about you. Bring Completion into that. There are a lot of incompletions, factual errors, the way you feel about you. Re-live all the incompletion memories, the way you feel about you, and relieve. And, let all these five be aligned to each other – the way you feel about you when you are alone, the way you feel about you when you are with him or her, the way you project you to the other person, the way the other person understands you, and the way you understand the other person. Let all these five be brought to Completion, to sync to Oneness. Whatever contradictions, incompletions you have in these five answers, dig out how these incompletions came in your system, what are the patterns, incidents, when you developed these incompletions in you. Go back to your memories. See why, when, how you developed these incompletions, contradictions, conflicts. Re-live those incidents, and relieve those incompletions. Bring Completion within you, then sit with the other person, help the other person to come to the space of Completion with you. That is what is “completing with the other person”.

Please understand, this meditation process has to be done together. First, you bring yourself to Completion, and help the other person to bring Completion. Both of you sit together and bring both of you to Completion.

I can give you example of this non-alignment between these five. When you are alone without that person, you may be feeling frightened, shivering, victim mentality; but you may be showing to the other person that you are very courageous, confident. I am not saying you need to show yourself to that person as a victim, frightened. No! Complete with that victim mentality, frightened mentality, fear mentality. Bring Completion into you. Show yourself as a complete being. Take responsibility for what he feels about you, and decide to have a right possibility and Completion with him. This is what I say, this is what I mean when I say “aligning”. Wherever you feel you are stuck, you are feeling the non-alignment, dig deep why this pattern started growing in you, when you started growing this pattern in you. Remember those incidents and pen down. Re-live them and relieve them till those patterns and incidents lose power over your cognition. Do this exercise at least eleven days with the other person.

Sometimes you may say, ‘What if the other person does not want to do, talk to me, or do this Completion, and does not believe in it?’ Don’t worry, you are capable enough to bring Completion in the other person. Completion is the one process you can do for the other person, because it is based, rooted on the experience of Oneness. You do this process for eleven days and bring Completion in you. You will see, the other person simply recognizes the space of Completion you are carrying, the other person simply responds to the space of Completion you are carrying, and the Oneness is awakened in the other person also. I am not talking about some theory; it is a science!

When you bring Completion in you, you will awaken Completion in the other person!

“Loneliness” and “Aloneness”

Just now I used both words in the same meaning. But in order to define both words deeply, in Sanskrit we have a word – “Kaivalya”; means, “aloneness”. “Loneliness” is, you want to have somebody to escape from you and your incompletions; that is “loneliness”. Even if you have the other person or not, you will be lonely. “Aloneness” is, you are so complete, so fulfilled, so powerful, you don’t need anybody to complete you, make you powerful, that is “aloneness”, whether you have the other person or not. Whether you have the other person or not, if you are complete with yourself, you are “alone”. Whether you have the other person or not, if you are incomplete with yourself, you are “lonely”. “Lonely” people attract slavery, abusive relationships. “Alone” people attract joyful, completing relationships, where not only they are complete, they complete the other person also.

People ask me to define “trying to improve others” vs “accepting the others as they are”.

Please understand, both are wrong!

Trying to improve the other, means, constant resistance. Accepting the others as they are, means, non-caring laziness. Both are wrong!

Be very clear, the other person is not one! Look into that person. All the Completion space that person carries, accept it as it is. Imbibe, imbibe so much that you feel one with it. All the powerlessness, even if it helps you to keep the other person under your control, don’t keep that alive; it is not good for you for a long term. Help that person to complete with that. Even if you know if that person completes from that incompletion he will leave you, help the person complete. He may leave you, but he will be living with you! He may not be able to stop living with you! I have seen so many people leaving me, but they can never stop living with me.

I tell you, the other person is not one!

That is an important understanding you need to have! Neither trying to improve the others, nor accepting the others as they are, is right. Try to complete the other person wherever he or she has the incompletions; accept the other person as they are wherever they have Completion.

People ask, ‘Commitment vs Responsibility in a relationship, Swamiji, please define?’

Please understand, if you constantly think from incompletion, powerlessness, and can constantly be thinking what all can go wrong, and trying to control only that, stop only that “what all can go wrong”, that is “Commitment”. “Responsibility” means, thinking from the powerful space “what all can go right”, and making that happen, working for that. “Responsibility” is working for what all can go right. “Commitment” is stopping, working to stop what all can go wrong. Commitment is “crisis management mood”, Responsibility is “creation mood”.

In a relationship, “Responsibility” means, constantly raising it to the next, next, next levels of Completion; “Commitment” means, trying to keep the plastic rose look like the real rose by spraying the perfumes. I tell you, “Commitment” is more like dragging; “Responsibility” is more like flowering. “Responsibility” means, feeling the present and future reality of both beings as one! “Commitment” means, somehow do actions, words, to keep it alive, keep going. There is a big difference between “Commitment” and “Responsible”.

What is the difference between “devotion” and “attachment”?

Ask me this question, because I am seeing tons and tons “devoted”, and thousands and thousands “attached”!

In “devotion”, you try to experience my space of Completion. In “attachment”, you try your best to pull me down to your level of incompletion. If you expect me to act in the same pattern you wanted, it is “attachment”. If you evolve in the space I am living and radiating, it is “devotion”. That is all! Very simple definition!

People ask me many times, ‘Swamiji, define Love vs Lust vs Passion.’

When you give the same space you wanted to the other person from the understanding of Oneness, when your beings experience the same reality, it is “Love”.When your bodies try to experience the same reality by exchange of muscle-memory and the physical touch, it is “Lust”. When your minds try to exchange the bio-memories and experience Oneness, it is “Passion”.

Please understand,

when your beings try to experience Oneness, it is “Love”.

When your emotions, interests, try to experience Oneness, that is “Passion”.

When your bodies try to experience Oneness, it is “Lust”.

All the three is nothing but trying to experience Oneness at various levels. If one leads to the higher levels of Oneness, everything is right. If one leads to the next level of Oneness, the body’s Oneness leads to the level of Passion’s Oneness, the Passion’s Oneness leads to the level of the Being’s Oneness, everything is right. When body’s experience of Oneness, if it leads you to explore the Oneness of the emotion, and the emotion’s Oneness leads you to the experience of Oneness of the Being, everything is right. If any one step does not lead you to the next step, it is wrong.

What is the best way to teach children about healthy relationships?

The best way is, educate them with the simple ideas how the friendliness strengthens them again and again. Do not add your selfishness into their being. Do not add your self-centred incompletions into their thinking part. Teach them to be powerful and complete. Teach them the joy of Completion. Teach them to relate from the space of powerfulness. Bring them to the eN-Genius program. We will teach them. We will give them the experience of powerfulness, relating from the space of Completion, and healthy relationships.