Questionnaire: ‘Dear Swamiji, as you say, facing fear is the only way to go beyond any fear. Kindly correlate practicing the four tatvas and living without fear of any sort from now on; for example, fear of public speaking, going up to the fear of death.’
Swamiji: You think public speaking is such a small fear? You are wrong! Fear of public speaking is nothing but fear of losing your image, which is much worse than fear death. At least, after death you know, I don’t need to face this fellow. Nobody is going to back come and ask you, ‘Why did you die in such a bad way? You could have died a little more gracefully!’ No, nobody is going to ask you. But everybody is going to ask you, ‘Why did you blabber your mouth so much? Why did you open your mouth and lose the little respect you had?’ Everybody is going to ask you! So Fear of public speaking is much more than fear of death. Getting it? Statistics are right when they say fear of public speaking is the largest fear than fear of death! Fear of death comes only as second in the survey reports.
Understand, listen, listen, when you face certain fear….. I’ll give you one example.
For example fear of losing all your wealth.
When you face that fear you don’t need to start believing you will lose one day, but you will face it. Listen. Usually what you do know in the name of facing the fear?
‘Alright, now I lost it! What can be done? Let me face.’ Then what happens? O
ne part of you confirms you are going to lose the all the wealth and then it will say, ‘No, no! How can you live? How can you live? What is this? Why are you thinking all this?’
Listen, how many of you understand what I am saying?
So now you are caught between whether you are going to accept you are going to lose the wealth one day, or just to hide, hide, hide and suppress,
‘No, I am not going to lose! I am not going to lose! I am not going to lose!’ If you say you are not going to lose, your heart is not going to believe.
If you say, ‘Yes I am going to lose now what to do?’ Again, ‘See, you are powerless now what to do? What is the way to save yourself?’ Your mind somehow keeps seeing the rut.
Listen you don’t need to believe you are going to lose the wealth, and you don’t need to have the fear what will you do if you lose the wealth? Understand? Continue reading “Fear of public speaking is nothing but fear of talking to yourself”